Title Mini Habits
Author Stephen Guise
Year Published 2013
Kind of Book self-help/productivity/habit formation
How strongly I recommend it 9/10
My Impressions This book was a bit of revelation. The idea is that we are governed by inertia. If we make a habit small enough, we will overcome the resistance to get started doing it and once we are doing it—as Newton said—an object in motion will remain in motion.
Date Read Jan 2018
Practical Takeaways
Don’t overestimate your self-control ability
Do a little bit rather than nothing
Do a little bit every day rather than just doing a lot one day of the week
Do the things you intend to do
Don't quit if you miss a day ie. get back on the bus
Make your habits automatic
Don't rely on motivation. Rely on willpower
Don't believe you have to be motivated to act. Act even if you're not motivated to
Strengthen your willpower by practicing it
Schedule times to do your habit
Don't make big decisions at night
Just get started to get the inertia going
Take the first step on the journey of 1000 miles
"Break things down into small components that are easily 'mentally digested' and less stressful."
Pursue only one habit at a time
When you're tired engage your mind to wake yourself up
Make your goals attainable
Quit working before you are ready to stop (for motivation to go the next day)
Execute your ideas
Imagine your busiest days when implementing daily habits
When setting goals take into account that your motivation levels will fluctuate day to day
If you're not doing your mini habits make them even smaller
Explicitly identify why you want to implement your new habit
Make certain activities cue your habit (eg. Whenever I get home from work I write for 5 minutes)
Make your deadline for doing your daily mini habit anytime before you go to bed
If you ever find yourself stalling, remind yourself how small your task is
Reward yourself often
Give yourself small rewards for completing your mini habits (laughter is a good one. Watch something funny)
Celebrate your wins
Celebrate your progress
Eat to restore will power
Check off the days you completed your mini habit with a big X on a calendar that you can see
Remind yourself of habits with a habit app that notifies you daily
Be patient with seeing progress
Drop unrealistically high expectations
"Refuse bigger targets" Don't make your mini habits bigger once you have attained them. Keep them the same, but remember that you are allowed to exceed them
Put extra energy and ambition toward bonus reps, not a bigger requirement
Let action precede motivation
Don't think that you need to be motivated to act
After completing your mini habit do whatever you want. (stop if you feel like it or continue going if you feel like it)
Big Ideas
Not doing what you say you're going to do harms self confidence
It is better to do it a little bit every day than to do a lot only once in a while
When we are too tired to make a decision we tend to revert back to whatever we do by habit
There is a reverse correlation between Will-power and Motivation ie. The more motivation you have the less will power required and vice versa
If your goal is too big, you can achieve a lot and still feel like a failure
Very disciplined people are those who have strengthened their willpower.
Once you start doing something it is usually harder to stop than it is to keep going
Lack of motivation to do something is not a physical barrier, it is a mental barrier
It’s easier to create new good habits than to break bad old habits
Habit is a reliable strategy
Motivation is an unreliable strategy
Because
Motivation is based on how you feel
And
How you feel changes from day to day
Why Willpower Beats Motivation
1) Willpower is reliable (not dependent of emotions which fluctuate)
2) Willpower can be strengthened like a muscle (the more you exercise will power the easy it becomes)
3) Willpower strategies can be scheduled (whereas motivation arises spontaneously at random times)
5 Things that deplete will power
1) effort
2) perceived difficulty
3) negative affect
4) subjective fatigue
5) blood glucose levels
Surprising Facts
People have been shown in studies to chronically overestimate their self-control ability.
Unknown Terms
Mini habit: a much smaller version of a habit you want to form which requires little will-power to do. The idea is that since it is so easy to complete, you will actually do it, feel good about yourself for doing it, and actually go on to do more since you will build up inertia by getting started
Ego depletion: The idea that will power is a limited source and it goes down the more decisions someone makes, the more tired they are, the more will power they've exerted etc. There has been trouble replicating the finding that proved this was a real phenomenon. “A self-control study found people who made a difficult decision earlier in the day were more likely to cave in to a temptation later, showing a decrease in self-control.”pg44
Abstract Goal: A goal which doesn't have an immediate next action step and therefore can't be quantified whether or not you are working towards it eg. “I want to be a professional drummer”
Concrete goal: A goal which has a next action step and you can easily quantify whether or not you are working towards it “I want to practice 5minutes every day.”