Title Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on it

Author Kamal Ravikant

Year Published 2020

Kind of Book Relationship/Self-help

How strongly I recommend it 6/10 

My Impressions

I did not love this book. I enjoyed aspects though. The sections on forgiving yourself for things you have done seemed very useful for those of us who expect unreasonable amounts from ourselves, however some of the messaging felt mixed, because he was also preaching things like "Never settle for decent.” All in all I liked the idea of the book more than the book.

Date Read Aug 2020

Practical Takeaways

  • Love yourself with the same intensity you would use to pull yourself up if you were hanging off a cliff with your fingers

  • Each time your mind shifts to darkness, imagine you're in a dark room and it's bright outside. Pull out a rag and start cleaning the window. Soon enough light will enter and take the darkness away.

  • Say your affirmations with emotional intensity

  • Say your affirmations out loud or in a whisper

  • Self Love meditation

-Meditate for 7 minutes each day

-pick a relaxing instrumental song that is 7mins long

-Imagine light flowing into your head and down into your body, going wherever it needs to go

-breath slowly. As you inhale think "I love myself" Then exhale whatever the response in the mind and body is

  • Mirror Self Love practice

-Set a timer for 5 minutes

-Stand in front of a mirror, nose a few inches away

-Breathe and relax

-Look into your left eye

-Say "I love myself" or " I love you" over and over again out loud or in a whisper

-Smile

  • When you have a negative thought say, "Not useful" and discard it from your mind-James Althucher

  • Fall in love with yourself

  • Forgive yourself First (it's the things we hold against ourselves that weigh us down more than anything)

  • Self forgiveness practice

-write down whatever you're holding against yourself

-Forgive yourself

-Let it go symbolically by burning it or releasing it into the ocean

  • Ask yourself "If I loved myself truly and deeply, what would I do?"

  • Ask the right questions

  • When you have to paths that lie ahead, choose the unknown

  • Don't let yourself coast when things are going great

  • Love yourself first (before others)

  • Pick one thing that feels true for you and practice it fiercely. Instead of reading lots of self help books and attending various seminars

  • Place your bet on one thing and then go all out

  • Make a vow to loving yourself

  • Pause throughout the day and take 10 slow deep and purposeful breaths

  • Say "I love me" or "I love you" (instead of I love myself)

  • Take a long deep breath when you wake up and say, "I love myself"

  • Fall and get back up

  • Vow to do something for one month straight

  • Picture yourself as a child and then give the child your love. Say "I love you" over and over again.

  • If it scares you, do it. (If it scares you, there is magic on the other side)

  • Feel grateful when you experience magic

  • Feel grateful before you experience magic

  • (for weight training) push harder and rest longer between sets. Ie. Heavier weights and longer breaks

  • Ask yourself "who am I going to be today?"

  • Become excellent

  • Improve

  • Ask if you're taking action from love or fear. Make it love. Always

  • Don't coast

  • Take responsibility for your feelings and emotions

  • When life sends you a gift, accept it

  • Accept help when it is offered

  • (For getting broken up with) "I deserve better. We owe it to ourselves to work it out together because we still love each other, but if you don't want to I will let you go. With love. I'm an amazing man and your choice is yours to make. Not mine.")

  • Get real careful about what you think about-Wayne Dyer

  • Never talk about what's missing in your life. Only put your attention on what you intend to create-Wayne Dyer

  • Don't settle for "decent"